We want to help you see things differently, and do things differently.
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You might have come away with some helpful ways to see it differently.
You might have had some doubts.
See what you think after watching these videos:
Here’s what we learned in the video:
You might think things wouldn’t happen so quickly, or that it’s not worth trying to make a change on your own. But if you sort things out calmly, children can learn that there’s a better way.
If you make the first change, it’s easier for your partner to react differently. And it’s better to have one calm parent than none.
Like anything new, you might not get it right the first time. But you can keep practicing and eventually it’ll get easier.
The key is to STOP. Think about what else might be going on. And if you can’t stay calm, take a break.
Here’s what we learned in the video:
Every family is different, but anyone can try these ways of doing things. Your children will feel the benefit.
Stay calm. Take a breath. Count to ten. When you’re calm, it’s easier to find a way forward.
Stop and think. What else might be going on for the other person?
Say how you feel. Don’t wait for the other person to pick up on your hints. Talk about what’s bothering you.
Even if and your child’s other parent are separated, you still need to be able to communicate.
While you may not be a couple anymore, you are still both parents together. It might not be easy to find new ways of doing things with your ex, but you can still make things better by remembering the tips from the videos:
STAY CALM
STOP AND THINK
SEE IT DIFFERENTLY
Remember that when you stay calm, your child feels the benefit.
You and your ex may need to have difficult conversations sometimes. When you need to sort things out, it’s still best to do it calmly. If you’re finding it too difficult, wait to have those conversations when you child isn’t around.
Family Lives offers a confidential and free helpline service for families in England and Wales (previously known as Parentline).
The Gingerbread Single Parent Helpline provides support and expert advice on anything from dealing with a break-up to sorting out child maintenance.
A team of highly trained female advisors who can support you if you are experiencing domestic abuse.